Be a Kind Human: The Handbook

I love new beginnings, new intentions, new moons, new months, new seasons, and the new year. Any one of these times would be perfect to set new desires for the time ahead. Some desires never change for me, to be thin, to be a better mom, to be a better daughter but really most importantly is to be kinder.

I love the quote, “ In a world where you can be anything, be kind.” My daughters agreeably hear this in my home over and over again ever since they were in elementary school. On social media, in the news, in the workplace and at our schools too many people create suffering and fear that need not to exist. We can change that.

Kindness can be cultivated. Acts of kindness feel good and continue to grow exponentially, like the pay it forward movement in the coffee shop's drive thru line.

In 2019, I was guided to a very impactful book. After reading it, I immediately put it into practice. “The Four Agreements; A practical guide to personal freedom” by don Miguel Ruiz changed my life, my way of thinking and my way of responding to others. I relate this book kinda like to a favorite movie. You know, when it becomes your all time favorite movie, so much that you watch it over and over and still pick up things you may have missed all the other times you watched it. Well, this is my all time favorite book and I read it over and over again. I pick up new insights each time. I have grown mentally, emotionally, and spiritually since I first read this book. This book talks about how everything we do is based on certain agreements we made in life, with ourselves, with other people and with our experiences. Overtime, these agreements exhaust our energy, create fear and move us farther from love.

The Four Agreements influenced my life in many ways, in my relationships with family, friends, co-workers and even strangers. This powerful code of conduct immediately changed my life and empowered me to face freedom, to feel true happiness and in return gave me a new sense of loving life.

What I love the most about “The Four Agreements'' is how simple they are and yet they have a huge impact on becoming a kind human.

Listed below you will find the simplicity I consider "The Handbook" for becoming a kind human. This is from “The Four Agreements” website.

The Four Agreements:

Be Impeccable With Your Word

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Don’t Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret

I want to challenge you to take one of these agreements and apply it to your life today. Keep practicing and these intentions will change into a new habit and a better life. I will guarantee you will feel a sense of calm and feel closer to a love of life more than you ever have before.

Educate. Empower. Enrich.

Reference:

https://www.thefouragreements.com/the-four-agreements/